Everyone’s an expert when it comes to dating. If you’ve ever been single for more than a few months, you know that’s when to expect unsolicited dating advice from friends and family. Most of it is offered with the best of intentions but will do nothing to help you get into a relationship. If you’ve been single for a while and you’re looking to get back in the saddle, you’re not going to do yourself any favours by following advice like:
Just Be Yourself
To be fair, most people misinterpret this phrase. When someone says “just be yourself”, what they usually mean is that you shouldn’t pretend to be somebody you’re not, just to impress your crush.
But most people think it means there’s no need to work on themselves because someone will love them despite their flaws and while everyone has flaws and we all deserve to be loved, there isn’t any harm on working on them and enhancing yourself.
Perhaps be open and honest with your new BAE and working through baggage together will bring you guys closer. You’re better off removing obstacles than hoping your potential won’t mind them.
Looks Don’t Matter
Let’s cut to the chase: looks matter. A study by developmental psychologist Phoung Thao Ha found that looks played a huge in men and women’s desire to date someone. But we probably didn’t need a study to confirm that, just a bit of plain old self-honesty.
Most, if not all of us, want to date someone we consider attractive. The good news is that everyone is different, and is therefore attracted to different kinds of people.cSome people like their partners skinny or well-toned, while others go weak at the knees when they see someone more voluptuous.
However, it really doesn’t take that much to look presentable. A good haircut, clothes that fit and a stylish pair of shoes are all you need to put your best foot forward. You know what they say, confidence is one of the sexiest things anyone can wear! And let’s not forget scent. Besides sweet perfume or strong cologne, long lasting fresh breath will also help you make a good first impression. If you’re looking for the best toothpaste for fresh breath, look no further than Close Up.
Play Hard to Get
Acting distant is apparently supposed to make you look like a confident person with a lot of options. And it works — but only for a while. In a 2018 interview, evolutionary biologist Dr. Mairi Macleod said that this type of strategy only works for a short time. So while playing hard to get might get you a few first dates, that type of behavior can eventually wear someone down. If you’re looking for something serious, withholding affection is the fastest way to alienate someone who might have considered being with you long term.
Dating is confusing, but it doesn’t have to feel like a chore. The most important things you can do is go in with good intentions and try to have some fun while you look for your better half. And remember, you are #FreetoLove whomever you choose!